Mum throws gender ‘re-reveal’ party as daughter, 6, comes out as transgender

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A mum has thrown her daughter what could be the world’s first gender re-reveal party – after her six year old son became her daughter.

Julie Hindsley, 33, from Texas, USA, threw a huge gender reveal party when doctors told her she was expecting a boy, filled with blue balloons and blue cake.

But Julie and her husband Daniel, 37, noticed that as baby Easton grew up, he was completely different to their eldest son, Grant, now 11, and loved playing dress up in Julie’s clothes and make up.

Eventually, Easton told Julie: “I want to be a girl! Just make me a girl!”

And now, the loving mother has decided to host a SECOND gender reveal party for her now daughter, known as Ella – so that Ella can celebrate her true gender.

Julie, who works as a nurse, and her husband Daniel, a lineman, thought Ella, now six, would eventually grow out of it and encouraged her to play sports such as baseball and tried to get her interested in her other toys.

However, when Ella threw her fists down in frustration, Julie knew that her child was transgender and took the family to counselling to try and find the best solution.

Now, Ella has socially transitioned and the family decided to throw her a second gender reveal party to celebrate her true identity and reveal her to the world.

Mum Julie said: “For our first gender reveal, we had all of our closest friends and family come together at a local restaurant that I worked at at the time. We had a cake pop stand and we bit into the cake pops to reveal the gender – it was bright blue inside.

“I was so shocked that we were having another boy because everyone thought it would be a girl – including me.

“I knew there was going to be a lot of people disappointed but I was relieved because I already had a boy.

“Ella was born in April 2014 and was completely different from her big brother from the get go. When she began talking and expressing herself, I realised there was more to it. She would talk about wanting hair as long as mine and wanting to wear the same clothes as me.

“Now, I would recommend waiting until a child is born, and a couple of years old, before having a gender reveal or be prepared that it might change.

“We were in denial for a long time about it until we finally learnt how to let go of our son and accept our daughter.”

When Ella was born, Julie and Daniel quickly realised that she was very different from her big brother.

Soon, Ella began expressing herself and would often ask her parents to let her dress up in girls clothes or play with girls toys.

She added: “I started noticing that she didn’t want to play with any toys she had, and at one of my niece’s birthday parties she got super excited over the toys and wouldn’t leave them alone.

“I told my husband we should get her a doll and maybe she will play with that. My husband bought her her first doll when she was two and she was so excited.

“We didn’t want to encourage anything too much either way so we just introduced it slowly – my husband began worrying we were getting her too many girly toys”.

When Ella was four-years-old, she told her mum for the first time that she wanted to be a girl as she began getting frustrated and angry about the situation.

Julie said: “She had never outright said that before – I was shocked.

“I just knew that she was transgender because of all of the other little things throughout her whole life that led up to that moment – but I tried to appease her and said we can grow out your hair if that’s what makes you happy.

“She would call herself sister a lot and my son would call her his brother and I had to tell him to stop correcting her – I didn’t want her to think something was wrong with how she felt, but I still was not ready to say the word transgender just yet”.

Julie’s husband, Daniel, has supported her and Ella through the whole adjustment.

She said: “We would constantly ask her what she wanted to do but I knew that she was transgender before he was willing to admit it.

“I was trying to get comfortable with it myself but when I told him, he accepted it and our councillor helped us a lot.

“They told us that hardly any children change their minds about their gender identity after this age when they are consistent, insistent, and persistent about it like she was – and that letting them be the gender they identify as was the best thing for their mental health”.

Every morning was a struggle for Julie as Ella couldn’t understand why she wasn’t allowed to wear girls clothes.

After several sessions with their councillor, Julie and Daniel decided that it was best for Ella to transition as soon as possible.

She said: “We talked to her and asked if she would want to start first grade as a girl and she got super excited and said yes – the process of transitioning began at the end of last year.

“In February, one of the nurses at her school said we should let her wear what she wants to wear. I took her shopping and she started wearing what she wanted.

“By March, we were using she and her pronouns and she chose the name Ella. This was around the time coronavirus hit so she got to transition at home which was really good for her.

“There’s no more fighting or bargaining with her; she’s been a lot happier since it happened, like a brand new kid.”

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