Because most lesbian couples are unable to access NHS fertility treatment, we were forced to crowdfund a baby as a wedding gift.
We’re infertile as a same-sex couple, so why aren’t we treated equally when it comes to getting fertility help?
When my wife and I got married, we had a slightly different gift list than most couples.
Instead of matching towels, John Lewis homeware, or a new fridge, all we wanted was the greatest gift of all: the ability to conceive a child, which many people take for granted.
We needed a crowdfunder to help us raise money for this.
I’ve always wanted children, and as a same-sex couple, we’ll need some professional help.
However, while a straight couple who is unable to conceive will be referred to the NHS for fertility treatment, lesbians will not be referred unless they can demonstrate that they have fertility problems by spending thousands on private treatments and proving that they did not work.
When I first looked into our options as a lesbian couple hoping to start a family, I discovered that the majority of Clinical Commissioning Groups (CCGs) in the UK do not offer financial assistance on the NHS to lesbians until they have paid tens of thousands of pounds out of their own pockets.
Guidelines for commissioning groups from the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommend that same-sex female couples receive free insemination at a fertility clinic.
Individual CCGs, on the other hand, have complete discretion over how they spend their funding, and these guidelines are not legally binding.
As a result, a postcode lottery has emerged.
Carrying this knowledge while yearning for a child has been isolating and lonely – a problem that few seemed to recognize.
It finally felt like someone understood when I heard about two influencers who are bringing a test case to the issue.
Megan and Whitney Bacon-Evans, or “Wegan,” are a married lesbian couple who have shared on social media that, like me, they were “shocked and devastated” when they learned of the financial barriers that stood in their way of starting a family.
After learning that they will be required to pay, they are raising funds to take legal action against their local CCG, Frimley in Surrey.
News summary from Infosurhoy in the United Kingdom.
We had to crowdfund a baby as a wedding present because most lesbian couples can’t get fertility treatment on the NHS.
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Most lesbian couples can’t get NHS fertility treatment, so we had to crowdfund a baby as a wedding present