A psychologist has devised a list of questions that will determine if your partner is really ‘The One’, after noticing that the most common question he’s asked is: ‘Am I in the right relationship?’
Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. is a professor at Monmouth University in New Jersey and has dedicated his professional life to answering questions on love and relationships.
In an interview with The Independent which has recently resurfaced online, he said: ‘It is probably the question people have the most but are least equipped to answer themselves.
‘When they try to determine, they don’t always know the right questions to ask and focus on the wrong thing.’
His test was inspired by the Keltner list, a systematic but non-numerical method for considering whether a baseball player is deserving of election to the National Baseball Hall of Fame.
Developed by baseball statistician Bill James, the list comprises 15 questions designed to aid in the thought process with each one intended to be relatively easy to answer by design.
But he insists this isn’t such a bad thing because ‘if you’re in a mediocre to bad relationship, getting out frees you up to get in a great one’.
‘Staying in a bad relationship is the worst possible thing for you,’ he said.
The professor added ‘learning good stuff about relationships is no threat to good relationships’.